When you see her next, bring chips as a peace offering. It is innocuous and a good gesture.
[ it's true! it's also something he does for jyn when she's in a grumpy mood. he brings her snacks to eat and munch on to try to foster her opening up. ]
Something I have found that opens the floor to conversation is simply silence. Waiting and letting the quiet drag out after the topic at hand has been established.
Make sure she knows you want to listen, without making any demands for explanation.
[ are they spy techniques or kindergarten squabble solutions?? both, probably. ]
Her feelings are hurt by whatever happened. It does not have to make sense to be true. She is angry you did not defend her, but there must be something - again, unrelated to this mission - that hit unexpectedly.
There must be a reason she wanted you to do it anyway, even though it was not possible at the time.
[ he knows what his default reaction would be: anger. anger that she calls him out on keeping things from her, keeping secrets that need to be shared when there is a possibility that she's doing it herself. ]
[ so is EVERYONE in this goddamn house. illya can be stubborn enough to pry it out of daisy sooner or later. ]
Then tell her it is okay if she does not want to talk about it now, but that you would like to eventually because you do not like seeing her this upset about something.
[ which... isn't manipulative, despite potentially sounding like it. he assumes illya very much hates seeing her upset, or he wouldn't have texted him. ]
[ it is good advice even if illya was hoping for something that would magically fix everything. he doesn't like to feel like he's in some sort of limbo, waiting for her to be ready and not knowing what he's done or might do to further upset her. ]
I will try this.
[ nothing to lose, after all. ]
I would hope she knows that I don't like seeing her upset but I will reiterate. She should be sleeping now, though. I think that is what she wanted to do.
[ there are no magic fixes!! as much as everyone would love them. you gotta work to solve this problem, illya! ]
Of course she knows it, but sometimes we need the reminder. An affirmation. Leave your questions open ended enough so she will not feel trapped into an answer.
If she is sleeping, this conversation can be had in the morning. Bring her breakfast in bed for the food segue. You can even leave the chips at her bedside if she wakes in the night.
[ like jyn doesn't already know about this entire conversation, putting an interruption on the jupiter talk. you're not the only one who shares everything with their cohabitant partner, illya!! ]
[ one day cassian will see the reality of that parallel. ]
You are welcome. If it does not work, we can brainstorm again.
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[ it's true! it's also something he does for jyn when she's in a grumpy mood. he brings her snacks to eat and munch on to try to foster her opening up. ]
Something I have found that opens the floor to conversation is simply silence. Waiting and letting the quiet drag out after the topic at hand has been established.
Make sure she knows you want to listen, without making any demands for explanation.
[ are they spy techniques or kindergarten squabble solutions?? both, probably. ]
Her feelings are hurt by whatever happened. It does not have to make sense to be true. She is angry you did not defend her, but there must be something - again, unrelated to this mission - that hit unexpectedly.
There must be a reason she wanted you to do it anyway, even though it was not possible at the time.
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[ he knows what his default reaction would be: anger. anger that she calls him out on keeping things from her, keeping secrets that need to be shared when there is a possibility that she's doing it herself. ]
She is very stubborn.
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[ so is EVERYONE in this goddamn house. illya can be stubborn enough to pry it out of daisy sooner or later. ]
Then tell her it is okay if she does not want to talk about it now, but that you would like to eventually because you do not like seeing her this upset about something.
[ which... isn't manipulative, despite potentially sounding like it. he assumes illya very much hates seeing her upset, or he wouldn't have texted him. ]
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I will try this.
[ nothing to lose, after all. ]
I would hope she knows that I don't like seeing her upset but I will reiterate. She should be sleeping now, though. I think that is what she wanted to do.
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Of course she knows it, but sometimes we need the reminder. An affirmation. Leave your questions open ended enough so she will not feel trapped into an answer.
If she is sleeping, this conversation can be had in the morning. Bring her breakfast in bed for the food segue. You can even leave the chips at her bedside if she wakes in the night.
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[ he is less confused now. still not completely sure he comprehends but there is a game plan, at least. ]
I appreciate you taking some time out of listening to Jyn talk about planets to help me.
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[ like jyn doesn't already know about this entire conversation, putting an interruption on the jupiter talk. you're not the only one who shares everything with their cohabitant partner, illya!! ]
[ one day cassian will see the reality of that parallel. ]
You are welcome. If it does not work, we can brainstorm again.